Self-esteem, Self-development & Assertion

Self-esteem can be defined as the collection of perceptions we hold about our worth and value. It includes self-appraisals of our intelligence, career success, social competency, social likeability, and physical and sexual desirability.

There are two facets of self-esteem- global esteem and stability of self-esteem. Global self-esteem is measured from high to low. Unrealistically high self-esteem can cause interpersonal difficulties and can result in reckless decision making. Low self-esteem is characterised by chronic self-doubt, self-criticism, anxiety, and underperformance. Stability of self-esteem ranges from stable to unstable, for example someone with unstable self-esteem would experience frequent significant shifts in their self-esteem sometimes moving from feeling good to bad because of one piece of negative feedback. The more unstable the self-esteem the more it will vary in response to external events; the more stable the self-esteem the more resilient it is to external events. If an individual has unstable self-esteem they may be anxious to avoid any negative feedback from others, resulting in not taking up professional, social and romantic opportunities that arise. However, using avoidance as a strategy to protect self-esteem is ultimately an unsatisfactory choice as we can start to feel depressed because of the opportunities we miss out on.

Assertive skills

Assertion training requires an exploration into an individual’s self-concept in order to identify barriers to assertion. This can include building a sense of personal rights and needs, as well as training in behavioural assertion skills.


Self-development is an umbrella terms for working on self-understanding, self-esteem, and assertion. Essentially self-development is the process of enhancing the internal and external aspects of one’s life.

Counselling can be of assistance with all these aspects of self-development. With a supportive therapist an individual can explore their sense of self, the personal narratives they hold and tell themselves, identify areas of potential growth, areas of emotional pain and trauma, and develop cognitive and behavioural strategies for implementing change in self-conception and lifestyle.


We prioritise the use of effective psychological therapies in the context of a quality therapeutic relationship.

The relationship between you and the therapist involves being supported in an alliance focused on your healing and growth. The therapeutic relationship allows for the direct experience of a healthy relationship that promotes self-inquiry and exploration in a non-judgmental manner. The therapeutic relationship promotes self-understanding and relationship skills such as healthy boundary setting, assertion, self-esteem, and the capacity to give and receive care, while addressing the specific issues you wish to resolve.

At Integrative Psychology we provide counseling services for a wide range of issues including but not limited to:

Feel free to contact us if you have a particular request or issue you would like help with and we will do our best to match you with the right psychologist.

Family counselling (otherwise known as Family Therapy) involves a number of family members together attending counselling to address a range of issues, which can often be long standing. Family therapy can be directed at assisting a family to clarify and better manage relationships amongst family members as well as assisting families in dealing with major changes or distressing circumstances or events, such as grief and loss or mental or physical illness. Dealing with past family based trauma can also be a focus.

As with all therapies a counsellor is there to assist the individual, couple or family to gain their own clarity about a situation and develop better ways of managing that situation. The counsellor is not there to guide the individual or family members toward values or beliefs personally held by the counsellor. Counselling is non-judgemental and respectful at all times.

At Integrative Psychology our therapists are trained in a variety of approaches to assist with a range of relationships.

Group therapy can be a very effective way of overcoming feelings of isolation and hopelessness while facilitating change in a relatively short duration of time. Group therapy can differ according to length, size of group and criteria for inclusion. Groups may also differ in the degree of group participation required; generally therapeutic groups require greater group participation than psycho-education seminars and workshops. If you have any concerns about group participation please discuss these with the nominated contact person for the group you are considering, prior to registering for that group program.

Group programs available at Integrative Psychology:

  • Love more, fight less- group therapy for groups
  • Self-esteem, confidence and assertion
  • Life after an eating disorder
  • Interpersonal group psychotherapy

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